“Don’t blame – Reframe”

There’s always more than one way to look at any situation.  And your point of view will affect the way you feel and react.

 For example: if you got made redundant you could choose to think that it’s the end of the world, a complete disaster and fall into a pit of despair; or, you could choose to think that it’s just the end of one chapter and the beginning of an exciting new one.

 The first point of view would probably make you depressed, sap your energy and leave you feeling unable to function.  The second would inspire you and fill you with energy, creativity and enthusiasm.

 This is the power of thought – what you think is what you feel and what you get.  And what we think is a natural form of self-hypnosis.

 To empower yourself and “hypnotise” yourself into action, think positively.  Always reframe every situation to look for what is positive (or amusing) about it.  This is what optimists do naturally.  If you struggle with that idea, then you need to practice – what are the other reasons that a situation could have occurred; what alternative reasons are there for other people’s behaviour?

 If someone is nasty, angry or critical towards you – don’t take it personally. Just consider that they may be feeling bad about themselves and something that you have said or done may have just triggered a negative reaction from them, and you just happened to be in the firing line.  Feel good about yourself, believe in yourself and treat other people the way you would like to be treated – if they don’t respond in kind, then that’s their problem.

 Blame, accusations and criticism are a way of life for some people who refuse to believe that anything could be their fault.  This way of thinking leads to disappointment, dissatisfaction and bitterness.  Taking responsibility for your own thoughts, actions and their consequences is far more positive and empowering.  No one can make you do anything you don’t want to do – no one can make you angry or depressed – it’s always your choice how you react.

 So, hold your head up, be proud of yourself and know that you can take something positive from every situation.

 Don’t blame – reframe!

 For more information, or help in changing your thoughts and feelings contact me on:

0121-689 9715

nicolette@m-power-me.co.uk